In my long quest for a mate, I found that only independent women are interesting. Those who were wards of others — either incapable of independent judgement, or of feeding, sheltering or defending themselves — were not only uninteresting but a source of danger. A person who is either beholden to a third party or has no choice but to parasite off you isn’t a very good romantic partner. A symbiont is a little better but the relationship then blends romance and survival too closely for comfort.
Sharing skills that a prospective partner lacks makes that partner more independent. That, in turn, makes the relationship more honest. A person who doesn’t strictly need you for a meal ticket or protection but chooses you anyway is more likely a true love. By contrast, politicians need dependent voters and foster learned helplessness with their policies. In case of self-defense, their attitude is like that of the British officers in the film “Lawrence of Arabia”, discussing their Arab allies:
Dryden: Are you really going to give them artillery, sir?
Brighton: I was wondering that, sir. Might be deuce difficult to get it back again.
Dryden: Give them artillery and you’ve made them independent.
Allenby: Then I can’t give them artillery, can I?
Only with the American politicians it’s not a matter of giving artillery or anything else, but that of merely not hindering the acquisition of defensive small arms by lawful people. Many of them won’t do even that little because it directly interferes with their personal interests. Independent people have little need for intrusive governments, while weak and dependent populace does.
“You don’t need a weapon, I will protect you” is the creed of both individual and institutional domestic abusers. That’s a good warning sign and a conclusive litmus test for bad intentions.
On Valentine’s Day, it’s also a good benchmark for your chosen one — would you trust your mate’s judgement and intentions enough to arm him or her? If not, run now. Firearms are the most obvious defensive weapons but almost anything can be used offensively and probably would be in the long run. If your mate, in turn, doesn’t trust you — deeming you either reckless or evil — ask yourself if that apprehension is reasonable. If not, you can try to dispel the misconception or find somebody more appreciative. If the concern is reasonable, consider what you can do to improve.